Rejection…

Have you ever told a person that you really liked them but didn’t want to hurt them or lose them in your life of blah blah blah happens? This is rejection. Have you ever told someone that they are amazing and you’d feel terrible to ever hurt them because you don’t want to lose their friendship? This is rejection.

As sweet as these statements and sentiments are meant to be, they are painful to hear. They lead to bad decisions and hurt feelings (feeling insecure sucks so fucking bad). But even worse, it reinforces the walls I and others build to keep pain away. The bullshit you tell yourself then tell me and other women you want to keep in the wings until you are done with whatever crisis you are dealing with is absolute bullshit.

If you are so insecure that you need multiple humans sidelined to stroke your ego as needed, you have more problems than you realize. It’s time to go talk to someone about your next level issues. Stop using women as your surrogate for self-worth and inflated ego. If you don’t change your ways now, you’ll be an old man going out looking for the next person to fill that void.

Guess what gals, this is for you too. Stop looking for the guy to pay for your meal and booze in exchange for attention (sex) to fill your self-worth cup. Buy your own! That’s where value and empowerment come from. Don’t make a guy drop $200 to make you feel wanted. Want YOURSELF! Save $200 and put that towards your own bills! That’s empowering and it’s fiscal responsibility.

Humans are meant to be connected. But stop forcing connections because you’re afraid of being alone. Connect with yourself. Then call a gal or a guy. But don’t call me…your bullshit games already cost you. If we ain’t talking it’s because your shit is not together. I’m really good with that too…

Stop repackaging the outside with pretty clothes and a nice haircut. Perhaps you could repurpose the inside, by reading a book that helps you grow or reach out to someone and work through some of those fears you’re having that causes you to believe you MUST have multiple sexual relationships at once.

Either way moving forward nothing will change unless you do something different about it. I hope you do something different. ~WM~