I so want to start this by saying I know that there are people out there that believe I have been shitty to them. Some yes, for others it’s based on a perspective of being wronged and not being granted something they believed they were entitled to. I have genuinely been shitty to a few. Of course I’ve been able to justify my actions with varying excuses, however, just because the guy was drunk hitting on me and wouldn’t leave, I should not have lied and told him he had mustard all over his face, then used my own spit on a napkin to wipe it off. BTW-he only had a small amount on his face and I actually left it there. So yes. I have been a shitty person.
Next are the stupid choices and decisions based on a series of unfortunate bullshit fed into my brain by others and I allowed my better judgment challenge my moral turpitude. Guess what? I was a shitty person. However, to protect the innocent I’ll say, “yep, that was me.” Being eighteen was hard, but the lessons I learned and the ever thankfulness I have for those who have forgiven.
But since the time my prefrontal cortex has been fully developed (about twenty-fourish), I have been mostly kind and not shitty. I have used a mega load of sarcasm and humor to get through moments that could have been otherwise marked as hard life lessons, but never have I had intentions to harm another being. (I am a carnivore so meat of any kind is excluded in this statement.)
What has happened to me by shitty people has been a far heavier burden on the wrong side of justice. Multiple attacks from jealous women who were chasing my ex, coworkers convinced that I was the devil because of my ability to work without complaining much or being able to tolerate a boss or two, and men who felt threatened by any amount of success that made them feel or think they were weak or lesser.
But even greater complaints about shitty people that I have are those that threaten and create harm to those that are even better and kinder than me. I know the Bible says that we are being prepared for our battles ahead. I realize that those battles are possibly drawing nearer. But my humans are being sacrificed by shitty people. Unsavory employees wrecking their carriages, missing property, endless worries about help, theft…it goes on and on.
People want money but not jobs, employees making a stand against policy that holds them accountable…what is happening? I remember when my boss was in charge, not the bully! I remember a time when a person would be fired for making false claims or acting reckless, aggressive, or hostile on a job. Now we promote them! WTF! Employees are demanding more money, less work, and if they don’t get it they create toxic environments. If they do get it they still create toxic environments because that’s not what they were miserable about in the first place.
Most of these people are unhappy at home, tell themselves the grass is greener somewhere else, are depressed, fantasize about how they’re the ones who’ve been treated unfairly, or just in general, they believe they are owed something. These people do not like me and they know I will call them out. I know many who won’t for fear of retribution…but it is ok to speak out against bullies. If you don’t it’ll keep happening over and over.
Good luck to the good people!
~WM~
Whiskey Momma 