Survival Mode…

It’s been awhile…not because the world lacks topics that need to be addressed, it’s because the world has too many needs that need to be addressed all at once! I’ve mentioned before that it feels like the world is on fire…well the fire is now a raging inferno and unless you have an ability to manage your shit, you’re gonna be ashes.

My load is heaving with people who cannot get it together and those who are not only carrying their loads, but the aforementioned folks’ loads too! The fixers are fixing more than ever and the vicious cycle continues. Well. This fixer believes there may be a better way to manage it, I just haven’t figured it out. At least not for others, and barely for myself.

For myself, I have continued to set significant boundaries. I don’t answer texts after hours unless absolutely necessary, although some get frustrated with this, it is what it is. I shut down my electronics at night to be present. I prepare myself ahead to be as flexible as possible with the day to day stuff, and I ask myself is it worth getting upset over.

Sometimes it works and sometimes it doesn’t. Either way I have more peace. I focus only on what matters and then once that’s addressed I can focus on collateral details. I use the stop skill A-LOT! it helps me take some deep breaths and lessens the urge to harm others. I also noted that’s not raising my voice helps promote even more peace for myself and my kids. (Although I’m still working on this, they’re complete slobs!)

Regardless of what is happening I really need to make sure I practice mental flexibility. If you don’t understand this-please look it up, it’s has been so helpful with my stress and managing my expectations. It has also changed my brain from constantly being in fight/survival mode to, problem solve and acceptance mode.

As always please use self care, love yourself first, then love those around you. ~WM~