I sit with people I serve everyday who lie to themselves and others telling lies to feel better about the shit show they are may be living in. Which I totally get…I’ve been there. I still do it sometimes to cope during distressful moments until I can actually address what is going on.
But damn, the bullshit humans tell themselves to feed their delusions and fake narratives is damaging. I’ll just get to it…Cancelling people, cultures, and history…cancels the life changing positive changes people and cultures have made to create a better history. Not all newer history is better, but to deny history that isn’t warm and fuzzy has happened does more harm than good.
We are cancelling people who made mistakes several years ago and are being blasted and cancelled now for behaviors leaders at the top of our nation make everyday. Our top leaders have made fun of genders, races, religions, sexes, cultures, people with disabilities, people who didn’t go to college, people who were POW’s, people who are impoverished, people with mental illnesses, and human’s of various shapes and sizes. It goes on and on…
There isn’t a single person who has not been a negative influence/impact on another human. If you are the one human that has never followed through with ill will or intent, YOU are in denial. Bullies come in every shape and size. BULLY: “seek to harm, intimidate, or coerce (someone perceived as vulnerable)”
This simply means that if you are a person who has power, authority, physical will and ability, over another-and you coerce, belittle, or intimidate them you have been a BULLY. Theoretically “Cancel Culture,” no matter how good their intentions may have been to start with, is BULLYING!
Cancel culture has cultivated a sense of entitlement and beliefs that one should not or does not deserve to have their life problems. This creates and reinforces ones inability to learn coping skills or to take personal responsibility in some cases, as they reinforce their “it wasn’t my fault” roles when it may not be appropriate.
I would love to cancel some people who caused me harm (they are dead so…) and I am sure there are people who feel the same for me, but I am surviving my life through the skills I learned from those traumas. It will not take me down because I am not strong enough to work through whatever is happening or may happen (even when/if it doesn’t feel like i will survive). If I cancelled the people who behaved like Chrissy Teigen did several years ago before she became the mature human she has become, I too would be cancelled…and so would you.
~WM~
Whiskey Momma 