Time to Let Go…

This past twelve months has been a time of change and rebirth. It has been a literal shedding of skin and old ways of looking at my life and how I view the world. Then ultimately making decisions in a very different, yet possibly a more sound and thoughtful way.

The past three months has been a time of grieving changes and loss that have been forced on me and those I love. It’s also been additionally hard as I separate from those I leaned on during this year’s journey. Seasons change, sometimes the people in the seasons change with you. Sometimes they just get shinier as they sink into a deeper shade of denial.

Nonetheless, changes come when the east wind blows. Unfortunately, Mary Poppins isn’t here to save us from ourselves. We have to rely on our sense of ethics and our moral compass (which varies greatly). Being in a relationship that has been built on the truth of our past and acceptance of our “inevitable” and beautiful future opens my eyes a little bit more to how easy it is to fall into fear traps.

I had an interesting conversation with a guy I barely had conversations with in the past (we will call him, Kronk) and knowing I’m in a committed relationship, asked to connect. Nope. Sorry, not sorry. It made me consider what I’ve been observing around me more. For example, I see old behaviors when the promise of new love is on the horizon. M

It’s not for me to judge. However, honesty with yourself prevents pain and suffering in others. I am privileged to have a couple guy friends, and I treasure their relationships, not because they are men, but because they are humans that are kind, respectful, and compassionate and they would never cross the line to hurt me or my guy.

There are guys that keep trying to push boundaries and make comments about “being broken up yet.” Those folks can go away and be miserable by themselves. I don’t have time for their shit. you have bigger problems than me being happy. Figure your shit out and leave me alone.

Grief of losing relationships with friends albeit through force at the work place, or through friends having their own lives happening and keeping them tied up is another consideration I’m dealing with. Again, seasons change, the times they are a changing.

Keeping pace with the changes of the world climate, work, family obligations, and still trying to maintain self-care is daunting and damn, having someone help carry that burden either through a friendship, family relationship, or a partner is so helpful (if they’re not toxic).

Letting things and people go may hurt upfront, but it can also lead you to heal. Knowing who you can rely on steadfastly and who may be in your life seasonally is key. My advice-don’t be a seasonal person to your humans. But also-set the boundaries to know when they’re not receptive to your help. Support can be you not saying a word sometimes. Also- set limits for your emotional investment in others behaviors-this will help keep you sane.

This has been somewhat of an epitaph for some of the people I’m letting go of…I hope those who have been struggling can take a piece of peace away from this blog. ~WM~