Before you take a giant presumptuous leap of judgement thinking that I don’t support Valentine’s Day (fully) let me explain myself. I harp (yes harp) everyday to those who will listen, that love should be treasured, celebrated, and cherished everyday, not just a show of obligation one assigned day of the year.
However, in the tradition of eating my own words…not everyone takes one day each year to express their affections. Those who do may have good reasons. For example, maybe that’s the tradition two lovebirds have that is meaningful to them. Maybe a partner has a block and it’s difficult to show affection or love emotions and this is the one day they feel they can communicate their affections without judgement or shame.
Maybe Valentine’s Day is an outlet for shy wannabe lovers to show their affection. Maybe it’s an anniversary of some hilarious anecdote. I don’t know. I do know though, for me, I stand by my words that showing your love (not abuse, that’s not love) everyday is beneficial to the betterment of the world.
If you love or even like someone near you, and you tell them, their day is brighter, they may be nicer to those around them, then those people spread the love to their people, then their people and so on. If you love or like someone far away, it’s the same- tell them, do the work, show the effort. Think about spreading that love across the world.
Interestingly, I almost wrote “the small” or “ little” things add up. However, I’m not going to put a quantifier on what’s “little or small.” Anything anyone is willing to do in the name of love, is love. It’s effort. It’s a show of human vulnerability to say-“you are important to me.” It tells someone they are special and connected. Everyone needs attention whether they want it or not. Period.
Some people have difficulty showing affection or may not have been taught, or even worse, tried to receive affection by earning it from someone who was abusive. Therefore, being gentle to express your needs or desires will have greater rewards and payoff; but you need to express your needs and work with your loved ones to develop and grow with one another.
For those who celebrate Valentine’s Day, and will be celebrating the day alone, do something nice for yourself. For example, practice some self-care. Take a bath (that’s good hygiene too), read a book, make a yourself a nice dinner. Appreciate your independence; it’s a beautiful thing.
Throughout history one has not been able to truly love another in a capacity that promotes relationship equality or a solid foundation of trust, understanding, and wholeness unless they have healed fully themselves. Take time to be alone and explore who you are and grow to become the person you project and desire to be.
I always want to support my humans. There are some that will be in my heart always and there are many I’ve let fade into the night for very good reasons. If I have said the above same written words to you, you will be in my heart always and I will always offer my support. ~WM~
Whiskey Momma 