“Well, as helpers, it’s natural to want to see people at their best. But that’s just not the way relationships work. If I love you, then I love YOU; the good, the bad, the ugly. If you make improvements in life, then great. But if not, I’m with you because I love/loved YOU.” ~A dear friend~
I was told this advice a few weeks ago by someone who I believe to be one of the smartest women I am blessed to know. Not only do I know her, but I’ve known her over three-fourths of my life. So I know a great deal of her wisdom comes from her life experience. Her advice was exactly what I needed to hear at exactly the right time.
So what do I do with that information now? When she stated the words to me I was closing a chapter of my life. However, I had been searching for the title for the newest chapter of my life. I still haven’t got a title, however, I do know it is about coming to terms with decisions I have made in my life, how I want to runny life, and who will be allowed to influence (the good, the bad, and the ugly) when given the ability to make those choices myself.
The first step is seeing its clear that I need to be the main character and focus on healthy choices (most of the time). The second step, making sure the other main roles in my life also take priority, however, if I’m not in a good place, then neither are they. The third and possibly hardest step is-I need to follow my friends’ advice about accepting a person exactly where they are and make sure that I extend the same love to myself for ex’s who I am now, not the person I will be or the person I used to be.
How this will fit into my life will be seen and discovered one day at a time and one fabulous or miserable experience at a time. I’m going to take bigger risks with everything that may hurt me, and encourage others to do the same. I’m going to ask the really hard questions that I may not like the answers to, but at least I’m asking. (Again, thank you Rex)
So if you’re watching and waiting to see what happens next, be ready. I’m going to make 2020 my whiskey bitch. It’s going to be the best ride yet, no matter what happens. I’ve been given an opportunity to change my path and start a new journey with the bonus of having all this extra knowledge about life through so many experiences.
If you’re one of the lucky ones to ride the ride with me, hold on tight…
~WM~
Whiskey Momma 