When is it time to let shit go and let the real and proverbial whiskey flow? It is almost impossible to gauge when the feelings will subside enough to allow a crack to open the door for the opportunity to let a gentle amount of peace slide in to our hearts for even a moment to let us move forward from the rage and anger.
I think it may be important to explore what rage and anger may look like related to being hurt or the mansplaining version of the feeling is as a “woman scorned.” My theory is as follows. The woman scorned is actually the woman who is so fucking fed up with dealing with assholes and their asshole behaviors that she loses her shit every once in awhile to remind herself that she will not be controlled by others…unless its fucking Christian Grey day. Then and only then is she willing to go along with being a submissive.
The pent up hostility of not being included because we don’t have a penis (I know, I’m tired of this argument too) or when we have to play nice so the opposite sex doesn’t lose their shit and fly off the deepest cliff over a change in schedule, or when they may not be getting enough attention, not getting enough sex, they want a different girl, or not having enough money. GOD forbid a kid is involved. For the sake of protecting every innocent child I’ll leave this argument out of the blog…one day though.
Luckily, there are enough other behaviors that need to be lessened in value (the emotion or effort i give it) and we will address them now. Okay…now how I deal with them, or sometimes not deal with them. I ignore any behavior that is reinforced with giving it attention. I check my motivation for why I would even want to broach their behavior. So my why has everything to do with getting the behaviors to stop. I hate stupidity and although I see something as stupid, they may feel it’s really important and I need to accept that I cannot control this.
When they don’t extend the same courtesy to me, I have to accept this and although I may not be okay with it I know I will be okay…with that being said, I DO NOT have to condone any of their behaviors as this could be reinforcing of the belief they can behave this way towards me. READ THIS AGAIN!!! I DO NOT CONDONE BEHAVIORS. If you are a hoe, I don’t need your shit. If you use people, I don’t need your shit. If you are a liar and feel the world owes you something because you’re a victim, keep fucking walking.
If you are a human who is broken as fuck and you learn from your mistakes without manipulating others, and use your powers for good instead of evil. I’m drinking with you, hell, I’ll buy the first round. the whiskey will flow freely with you. If you aren’t this person, I don’t need you. I don’t want you, and if you are a person that I absolutely have to have in my life, I will only tolerate you, then accept that this is who you are and probably who will always be, and I’ll just drink whiskey without you.
Ladies and gentlemen, this is the best advice I can give you to move forward and have Whiskey Under the Bridge. Focus on the positive outcomes you are working towards and don’t let others slow you down with their shit. Grow from your past relationships and stop repeating the past. If this is an issue for you, like it has been for me, talk to someone. Find your Hook try not to build the walls and allow yourself to feel vulnerable to explore why you continue the pattern. Challenge the pattern and break it, shatter the fuck out of it and do better.
It is hard…I know this. Hit me up, I will help. Until then, drink the whiskey under the bridge…
Whiskey Momma 